Why making time for you will benefit the whole family

By Bri Hayward, XOthree Active

Becoming a mum is a huge adjustment. We imagine our beautiful bubbas fitting so seamlessly into our current life while we go on being the same social people we were before our babies came along. In reality it’s a little different. While being a mum to your baby is every bit as amazing as you’d imagined - finding a little ‘me’ time can be a huge struggle.

Being a mother and still being yourself is a delicate but important balance to muster. As a mother, you give up so much of yourself for your family. It’s easy to put those you love first but it is so important for both yourself and your family that you find time to make positive impacts for yourself.

Pre-baby, our lives run something like this; wake up when desired, head to gym, go to work, lunch/coffee dates, wines after work and socialising on weekends. However, in a blink of an eye (or a long labour) you’ll find yourself feeding on demand, cleaning up poo and vomit, getting less sleep and barely having time to shower. While it’s unbelievably amazing staring into the eyes of your beautiful baby, it can also make you feel very far away from the previous version of yourself.

A huge change so quickly can be a difficult thing to wrap your head around. On top of this, your body goes through some pretty massive hormonal changes during this time. It’s important to plan for this and be kind to yourself along the way. You may not have the time or energy to do all the things you did before, but putting aside a little time each day for you is a really important step in keeping your mind and body happy.

We want our mums to maintain a level of control physically and mentally after having a baby. Exercise is a huge component of that. It is our belief that putting time aside for yourself to stay fit and active will payoff ten-fold.

How can you find time as a new mum to squeeze activity into your day?

Here’s a few ideas for you:

  1. Put the carrier on and walk around the block a few times
  2. Get some girlfriends together and meet at a local park (get some Vitamin D in) and talk and chat while doing some laps
  3. Got stairs in your house? Try and do a few extra trips up and down each day
  4. Get a personal trainer that will come to you
  5. Baby is sleeping and you feel like exercising? Download a free exercise app or jump onto YouTube for some free exercise videos

Exercise is a great way to lift your spirit and maintain balance. However, it is important to make sure you are getting the rest you require and that your body is ready for the activity level you are intending to do. It is vital to rest after birth and to ease into gentle exercise like walking to begin with.

Maintaining an active lifestyle during pregnancy and postnatal has been proven to help reduce the likelihood of postnatal depression and anxiety – which we are huge advocates of. Postpartum depression and anxiety are a big deal and knowing what works for you is an important step towards self-love and care.

If you are looking to maintain a sense of self along your journey through motherhood, we encourage you to continue doing the things you love. Exercise, make time for friends, get dressed up, go get a coffee, listen to music. Whatever it is, enjoy your journey through motherhood by planning some me-time. You are worth putting time into! Yourself and your family will thrive with a healthy you at the helm.

Note: The views and advice expressed on this blog post are those of the author and are not representative of the Pregnancy Babies & Children's Expo.

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