We asked influencer/blogger and Dad of three, Brad Kearns about Fatherhood and his parenting journey so far.
1. Tell us a little bit about yourself (family, work, lifestyle) and how your Instagram, Facebook and blog, DadMum started?
I’m a 32-year-old husband and father of three. I’m self-employed as a consultant in Aged Care and have worked across multiple industries beforehand (police, military, fitness).
I am an accidental blogger/influencer. In 2016 my wife was rushed to hospital with liver failure leaving me with our 2 year old and 6 week old at the time. Being alone with such a little baby was new to me because I was in the army when our first was born.
I told Sarah how hard I was finding it and she said, “you need to write this down, I don’t ever want you to forget it.”
So I did. The next day I had 50,000 Facebook followers. I guess it struck a chord.
2. What do you love most about being a Dad?
My favourite part is consciously doing the things for them that I wish I always had. Every time we’re out. Every time they have a new experience. Every family video. I just love it.
3. Did you have an idea of the sort of Dad you wanted to be before you had children?
No. I came from a rough childhood and I was really apprehensive. I didn't know how to Dad. I wondered, ''what if I do it wrong, what if I’m not enough of an adult to do this."
4. How has fatherhood changed you?
Yeah, it absolutely has. I’m a blue-sky thinker and it’s absolutely helped me settle down. I find myself reflecting a lot more than I used to. When your kids are so young all you want to do is be the best parent you can be. On those days where you get it wrong; reflection is what gets you out of bed and willing to change the next day.
5. How did you feel when your wife Sarah told you she was pregnant the first time?
I was excited but I was nervous. What if we hadn’t done all of those things we could have done before children? I knew life would change because everyone told me it would. I saw it as something that might hold us back. But in reality, it was something that helped us become who we really are.
6. What advice do you have for new Dads or Dads-to-be?
Be yourself. Be vulnerable. Ask for advice but don’t always take it. Trust your intuition and do what feels right. You’re going to have great days and you’re going to have bad days.
Find your outlet - friends, fitness, or hobbies it doesn’t matter. Make sure you take that time to reset when you can and don’t be too hard on yourself.
A great Dad isn’t made overnight. A great Dad is made from a lifetime of effort. And that’s what they’ll remember.
Follow Brad and his fatherhood journey on Instagram @dadmumofficial